"Adolescence can be a time of great stress and turmoil—not only for kids going through it, but for their parents as well. It’s normal for teens to explore a new sense of freedom and to redefine the ways in which they relate to their parents, and that process can sometimes leave parents feeling powerless, alienated, or excluded from their children’s lives." ⠀
My friend's mom asked about ways to have a discussion with an irritable, hormonal teenage boy. I don't have any teenagers myself, but here are some things that I’ve learned through Positive Discipline that have been helpful with the students and families I've worked with:⠀
Pick a time every week when you will have a discussion and try to stick to the same day and time every week. It can be during a time you’re doing something your child enjoys…playing a video game together, driving to basketball practice, eating pizza, etc etc. as long as your child is able to have a conversation while engaging in the task. If you think they will become too distracted, let them know they can go do their activity after you’ve talked to each other.⠀
The key is to have an OPEN discussion about any issues you’ve perceived or things you would like to get done. Instead of telling your teen what you want them to do or what you wished they would have done in certain situation (“I need you to do xyz,” “Why didn’t you do what I asked?”), phrase it as a question and ask for their opinion or their help in figuring out a solution (“How can we communicate more respectfully?” “How would you like me to bring things up so that you don’t think I’m making a big deal out of something?” “What is your responsibility if you’re going to borrow my car?” “What’s your plan for finishing your project?”). When children of any age feel a sense of buy in and control, they are much more likely to want to participate and follow through!
This wasn’t going to be an entry for #whpblackandwhite, but as I started to play around with the edit I ended up loving this version, so here it is. it’s also the perfect addition to @theslowtraveler#mymagicalmirror.
We’ve been mostly moving plants around this weekend, in hope that they’ll stay alive 🙈. We also re-organised (donated/binned/hid) Sienna’s huge toy collection (don’t tell her). So what did you do this weekend? Was your’s as riveting as mine?
HUG your children everyday and tell them that you LOVE them. ❤
Blaine and Lucy have been getting extra hugs lately. It's difficult to write about something you wished never happened, but two seperate and unfortunate tragedies have me squeezing my children extra tight. Make a point to hug your children before work, school and bed because you never know when it will be your last.
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